by Gurani Anjali
Breathe in. Stay with your breath and listen. Observe the other. Keep your distance physically to avoid physical abuse.
To create and continue a relationship one has to take responsibility. One has to admit to oneself the vulnerability of one’s shortcomings and limitations. Understanding is necessary to balance off the circumstances and to create peaceful co-existence.
Co-existence is dependent on time, and time is the flux of three moments: past, present, and future. The most important of the three is the present, for in the present what is, is. And that is you – the present moment and the other. Come to the realization that you do not exist without the other and the present moment. Therefore, the present moment and the other do not exist without you. A thing in itself does not exist by itself.
When the realization and the embodiment of the flux of three moments is fully appreciated, then one is in harmony with life. There is respect. For respect breeds consideration, which leads to reflection, which leads to understanding. Through understanding, we use all our qualities, without neglecting any area of our lives. When one is lacking in understanding, one becomes easily affected. Irritability and frustration will result in physical and verbal vulgarity. Seek understanding.
When understanding is appreciated one does not put oneself or another in a situation that will cause pain, physically or mentally. Pay attention to language: the art of words, the context of a situation, the speaker, the volume and the intensity. Indirect and direct thrusts of inconsiderate behavior are sometimes intentionally directed, and sometimes karmically (past impressions) evolved. All of lie is a matter of cause and effect. Learn of this and e free.
The pain that is to come must be avoided by reflecting on past pain and anxieties. You will find answers to solve existing pain. Be brave and take a stand.
- Whatever we do must be done wholeheartedly.
- There are no compromises in life.
- Learn of the senses. Know their nature. Know when, how, and why to appease their appetites.
- All relationships have one thing in common, and that is commitment. This entails involvement, respect, responsibility, and sacrifice.
- Do you have a way of life?
Gurani Anjali
This essay was distributed with the following open letter to women:
I have been thinking of you and decided to write on the subject of how to handle abuse and abusive language.
Life must be lived in the moment, and according to our understanding, so it will be. However, we want to embrace life with affection, love, and care. This is our desire. We want so much to be needed, respected, and above all adored, and I say, “Why not?” Yet time and time again, individuals in our lives and individuals we casually meet everyday, fill us with doubt, anxiety, fear. So we fight back. We really don’t want any negativity to enter our lives.
So what are we to do? I say, hope for the best, be prepared for the worst. Prepare yourself, get strong; nothing lasts forever. So say to yourself, when you are caught in the clutches of agonizing abuse and vulgarity, that this, too, will pass away. We don’t want to lose relationships and because of this fear, we cling to the thought of how it could be, how it was, and how it should be. These thoughts go into feelings, feelings go into words, and action becomes an enveloping cloud which carries us away, into realms of pleasure and pain.
I give meditation every Sunday, at 10:30 a.m. If you can attend, I’ll be very happy to see you again.
Thinking of you,
Respectfully,
Gurani Anjali